I’m Obsessive About My Sleep—This Experience Completely Reframed My Routine

I’ve always been a little obsessive about my sleep. Blame it on the bout of insomnia that hit me in middle school and lingered into high school, when I’d spend hours staring at the ceiling, counting sheep (and then recounting them). By college, I’d become the friend who left the party at 7:30 p.m. to start my wind-down routine—zero all-nighters were ever pulled, and I wore that fact like a badge of honor. My friends laughed, but I knew better than to compromise the thing that fueled everything else in my life.

Fast-forward to my early thirties, and my obsession has only deepened. I’ve read the books, tried the apps, dimmed the lights, and tested every sleep hack the wellness world has to offer. Some worked, most didn’t. But through trial and error, I’ve learned this: when I prioritize rest, everything else feels easier—my morning workout, my creativity, even the way I show up for the people I love. Sleep really is the foundation for the rest of it.

How a Sleep Retreat Reframed My Approach to Rest

So when I checked into Hotel AKA Back Bay in Boston for their Sleep Experience—a curated sleep retreat complete with aromatherapy rollers, a pillow menu, a psychologist-approved sleep journal, and even a sound machine—I was curious. Could a weekend devoted entirely to rest reframe my relationship with sleep? What I discovered was more than relaxation; it was a reset. And it gave me a handful of rituals I’ll be carrying into my nights at home.

Checking Into a Sleep Retreat

By the time I landed at Logan on a red-eye from Portland, Oregon, I was already running on fumes. My week ahead promised to be the kind of New England homecoming I always look forward to—Maine with my sister, a stop in New Hampshire, northern Vermont with my dad, and finally a few cozy days in southern Vermont with my mom. But before the road trip marathon could begin, I needed a reset. My body craved more than just caffeine (though that was consumed in *mindful* abundance). It needed something deeper—a real refresh before the whirlwind of family visits began.

A Space That Slows You Down

Stepping into Hotel AKA Back Bay felt like dropping into another rhythm entirely. The interiors were serene and cocoon-like, with muted tones, soft lighting, and plush seating tucked into quiet corners. Floor-to-ceiling windows let in the late-afternoon glow, warming the sleek, minimal design. After the noise of TSA lines and the disorientation of a cross-country flight, the shift was immediate. It was as if the city’s bustle softened at the hotel doors, replaced by a hush that invited you to slow down.

Designed for Deep Rest

That sense of calm only deepened when I got to my room and discovered the Sleep Concierge, a menu of offerings designed to anticipate every possible barrier to rest. A pillow menu with options from down to memory foam, aromatherapy diffusers with eucalyptus or chamomile, a weighted blanket for gentle pressure, even a sound machine with 42 soothing options—the details went far beyond luxury. They created a space where rest wasn’t just possible, but inevitable. The timing couldn’t have been better—it gave me the reset I didn’t realize I needed and encouraged me to rethink my approach to sleep at home.

The Comfort Connection

One of the most surprising lessons of the weekend was how much comfort really matters—and how rarely I take the time to personalize it. At home, I tend to fall back on whatever pillow is closest, but experimenting with the hotel’s pillow menu reminded me how much support can make or break my sleep. I found myself gravitating toward a contoured memory foam option that relieved neck tension I didn’t even realize had been building up. Paired with a weighted blanket, the experience felt grounding in a way that left me calmer and more at ease as I drifted off. It was a reminder: investing in the right bedding isn’t indulgent, it’s practical self-care.

Creating the Conditions for Rest

As I settled into the weekend, I started noticing how each element of the experience was designed with intention. It wasn’t just about luxury touches—it was about showing how small, thoughtful details can transform the way we rest. Here’s what stood out, and the lessons I’ll be carrying with me.

Offerings That Redefined Rest

The same truth held with the small but powerful “aids” that supported the room’s atmosphere. A sound machine that replaced the hum of the city with ocean waves, a diffuser that filled the air with chamomile, even a yoga mat waiting for gentle stretches—all of it worked together to create an environment where rest came more naturally. At home, I don’t need every tool, but I’ve started leaning into the idea that sensory cues matter. A quiet playlist, dimmed lighting, or the subtle scent of lavender can signal to my body that it’s time to transition into sleep.

Rituals That Restore

Even the nightly rituals reframed how I think about winding down. Instead of rushing through a skincare routine and collapsing into bed, I slowed down with a cup of herbal tea and a few pages of a sleep journal. The act of writing about and reflecting on my day became a way of closing out the evening, like drawing a curtain between the day’s demands and the promise of rest. Sleep isn’t just what happens after the lights go off—it’s shaped by the rituals leading up to that moment.

Sleep isn’t something to squeeze in once everything else is done—it’s the starting point that makes the rest of life feel fuller, lighter, and more aligned.

The Sleep Practices I’m Taking Home

What struck me most about the Sleep Experience was how seamlessly its lessons translated beyond the hotel room. I didn’t just come away feeling rested—I left with small, tangible shifts I could carry into my everyday life. Here are the takeaways I’ve already started weaving into my nights at home.

Rituals Over Routines

If there’s one shift I’m carrying into my nights at home, it’s slowing down enough to create rituals instead of rushing through routines. Whether that’s steeping chamomile tea, jotting a few reflections in a journal, or doing a wind-down yoga flow, these cues signal to my body that the day is done. These rituals don’t have to be elaborate—what matters is consistency and intention.

Environment Shapes Sleep

Our surroundings play a bigger role in sleep than we give them credit for. At home, I don’t need a full pillow menu or spa-level amenities, but investing in better bedding, keeping the bedroom cool, and introducing small sensory cues—lavender on the nightstand, a soft, instrumental playlist—makes deeper rest more likely. It’s about removing friction and creating a space where sleep feels inviting.

Sleep as Everyday Wellness

Above all, I came home with a reframe: sleep isn’t just recovery, it’s a daily practice that supports every other part of wellness. Just like nourishing meals or movement, it deserves care and intention. Thinking about rest this way has shifted it from something I “should” prioritize to something I look forward to—a source of energy, clarity, and presence I can carry into the day.

The Takeaway

My stay reminded me that sleep isn’t something to squeeze in once everything else is done—it’s the starting point that makes the rest of life feel fuller, lighter, and more aligned. I may not have a Sleep Concierge waiting at home, but I do have the tools to create a space and routine that supports the kind of rest I crave. I’ll always look back on that sleep retreat as a reset, but the deeper shift was recognizing that nourishing sleep is something I can cultivate every night.

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